tell me why she doesn’t want to come. tell me what he is scared of. it will not hurt my feelings to tell me why your child doesn’t like preschool. there is no reason too silly or small. tell me what she doesn’t like that i do. tell me what parts of the day are boring. tell me what things he wishes he could do. tell me if there is someone hurting her. tell me if there is someone he’s afraid of. tell me what she wants from me. tell me what he needs from me. I was gifted with a beautiful moment last week. the classroom was getting loud with friendly enthusiasm about what number should come next on the calendar. voices were ramping up in a collective “seventeeeeeeeeeeeeeen….” when one friend stood up and with her hands over her ears, feet firmly planted, said strongly:
see!! THIS is why I don’t want to come here.
thank you, friend, for telling us. now we know.
(all but one child agreed that it IS too loud at this place. that lone loud child was offered many suggestions on where and how to be loud. upon hearing those suggestions, a few more friends admitted that they too liked being loud. we recalled the classroom plan that if anyone puts their hands over their ears that means it’s too loud and we will change. and yes, you can believe there were many using the it’s-too-loud-sign power that day.)
so, grown ups, tell me anything.